Dear Connor,

Welcome to the explosive world of guy-girl relationships. It can be an absolute minefield. But that doesn’t mean you should not have friendships with girls. Just be careful where you walk and sidestep the mines.

For instance, know that you basically have three destinations with guy-girl relationships:

1.    You keep things cool and enjoy your friendship.
2.    You decide to get more serious and head into romance.
3.    You decide to go your separate ways.

It sounds to me that you and Becca like each other. It’s cool you have a friend like that. You are lucky. Falling for a girl you are close to is natural. It happens to girls too.

You can learn to be attracted to a person. Think of those countries where the parents arrange the marriage.

Scary, huh? But what usually happens, is that the newlyweds discover more and more qualities about each other that increases their attractiveness to each other.

You could give it time and see what develops. My guess is that she is attracted to you, at least a little bit, or else she wouldn’t be spending time with you. Or, you could look around for a girl you are attracted to and see how her other qualities like personality, sense of humor, beliefs, interests, etc. jive with yours. You are free to do this because you and Becca aren’t going out, but be careful, you could easily hurt her feelings.

You may find out that Becca has more to offer than the babe you are all gaa-gaa about, so check it out!

Yours truly,
Ally