“Like who? Dr. Phil? Dr. Ruth? And Dr. Drew from Loveline?”
“Yeah, and others. Plus it’s unprotected sex. Your mouth has all kinds of bacteria and can carry sexually transmitted diseases, and you may not know you have anything!”
“No, ewww, that’s scary! I just figured, since we weren’t having sex, I mean intercourse, that I was protected. You know, with all of this hype about AIDS and all the STDs, it seems much safer to have oral sex than real, all-the-way sex.”
“Yeah, I know what you mean. It’s frightening. One romantic evening could ruin your health for a lifetime.”
“I think that explains my second thoughts about Jason. It just seems too-much, too-fast. Thanks.”
“Oh yeah, there’s one more thing that your friends may not tell you about oral sex. This whole ‘friends with benefits’ arrangement usually is a rip-off for the girl. Once a guy gets off, he’s likely to back off from the girl. The friends with benefits deal tilts towards the guy’s sexual satisfaction more than the girls. She wants to bond and snuggle, and he’s ready to bolt out the door!”
“Exactly! That’s the way I felt about Jason. I was looking ahead for more; more snuggling, more sweet talk and being together; but once he got what he wanted it was back to a cool, almost ‘just-friends’ status. It was weird.”
“It clouds the relationship. If you are ‘just friends’ it’s best to leave the sex, even oral sex out of the relationship. Sure it feels good to meet your sexual needs, but it changes the dynamic. It blurs the line between friend and lover.”
