“After a few deep and long kisses, his hands were all over me. He asked me to go to the bedroom, but I told him no. I didn’t want him to think I was some kind of slut.”
  
“So you got up and left?”

“Yeah right! No . . . he kissed the back of my neck and it sent shivers down my spine. Next thing I knew he was pushing my head down toward his lap and asking me to go down on him.”

“Did you?”

“Yeah. I didn’t really want to, but I gave into the whole scene. Plus he’s so dreamy.”

“What happened next?

“It’s like he checked out. After he got his little thrill, he backed off. Not physically, but I could tell that his mind was going somewhere else.”

“Once he conquered you and got what he wanted, he had other things in mind.”

“That’s kinda harsh; but yeah, I guess that’s probably what happened.”

“Could that be why you don’t want to hook up with him this weekend?”

“I think so,” Tori looked down at her fingernails and dug at some imaginary dirt underneath them, “I feel used.”

“You were,” I affirmed. “That intense physical expression was way beyond your relationship. It was a first date.

“But it wasn’t sex.”

“Yeah it was. It just wasn’t intercourse.”

“What?”

“They call it ‘going down’, ‘giving head’ and a bunch of other names; but its oral sex. It’s stimulating your partner orally instead of full genital contact or penetration.”

“I hate that word – penetration!”

“Yeah, I know, it sounds so forced.”

“That’s why I’m more comfortable with the . . . you know, what we did.”

“Yeah, I know. And I also know that lots of young people are going crazy about oral sex, claiming it’s cool because it’s not sex. But like my buddy says, ‘If oral sex isn’t sex, then why can’t they come up with better words to describe it? Which of the words makes it something else, ‘oral’ or ‘sex’?’ It’s still sex.”

“You’re right. It seems to be the rage right now, and I didn’t want to be left out. It was only my second time.”

“I don’t want to get too heavy with you, but let me tell you a few things your friends won’t tell you about oral sex: it bonds you with your partner in a deeper and more intense way then just kissing and caressing.”

“Yeah, I noticed that. I felt very close to this guy, his name is Jason, but I didn’t want to be that close, that soon.”

“Yup, that’s because it’s designed for a more committed relationship.”

“Says who?”

“The experts.”